It is my belief the people there really care for her. She is up and at ’em (using her walker, of course) and gets out of bed to enjoy the social aspect that comes with hanging out by the elevator. Apparently, she is a terrible flirt and helluva dancer at Saturday happy hour. She is happy in her new assisted living facility and making friends. I think that’s one measure of success - no regret.Īfter having requested a leave of absence from my firm, I have been focused on getting mom settled and off all those drugs - those unnecessary drugs. Looking back, I wouldn’t have done anything differently. It seems also, I lost a couple of the battles but end the end, won the war. It seems the adrenaline rush fueled me for quite a long while as I fought a blustery battle on mom’s behalf from 2,067.2 miles away. Since mom’s fall in April, I have had a number of FIOFI moments.
YOU SHOULD BE HERE WITH ME ZIP
Don’t get me wrong, it still looks great - until I zip it! Ack! I had lost 32 pounds and the dress looked great. Yes, I had been planning this since before mom’s fall. I think about this as I try to get into the dress I had planned to wear to Mike’s reunion. If it’s within your control, then do your damn well best to make it what you will it to be but if it’s not, let it go. Seriously, folks, life is too short to give your power away. “FIOFI.” Yep, I said it (but didn’t type it). Worry is so self-destructive and if it does do anything, the thing it does, is bad I am sure. I’m guilty on occasion but not many of them. I suppose what’s more telling is the number of people on the receiving end of that message - those who worry. That Glenn Turner must have been onto something. Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. - Glenn Turner My husband says this silly phrase that apparently many others have heard but I have not: In fact, it does have power - negative power.
Worrying is not without power as some might say. However, since we are striving for our best selves and perhaps not there yet, we sometimes make choices we feel we need to make but aren’t in our best interests. In no way does this mean, stuffing your face or even stuffing your feelings down. Mastering how we handle emotions is a key factor in remain healthy, happy, safe, and strong. Yes, serious tragic things happen but if we focus only on the things we can control, we can change the course of history one small breath, one short letter, one brief march, one quick call, one compelling email at a time. There really is nothing inherently “bad” in this life. Any of you who know me personally, and that’s a lot, know that I always say, “Win or learn - never lose.” It’s true.
It’s important to honor all feelings because they offer us guidance on where - or where not - to go next. I have found myself spending a bit more time in the now than I had been.Īll feelings, even negative ones are of value. You know, the ones on the rusted rails adhered to the rickety wooden scaffolds? Well, things are finally starting to settle. Yes, an old-fashioned roller coaster ride. So here I am stuck sick in bed, listening to my body tell me, “Stop it! You have been running on fumes for far too long.” I have literally been on the go since mid-April when my mom fell and broke her hip.
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